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John i have a question for you. about a year or so ago i found out my son was bisexual. I believe in the bible and i new that homosexuality was wrong but we got in this huge fight about it. my son shawn kept going on about how its his life and how he wants me to just live with the fact that he is bisexual and likes girls and guys. so he then it was just a phase and that he was just confused. i dont know if he is just telling me that or what. have you ever had something like this happen to you before?
First of all, let me say this. The Bible clearly condemns homosexual acts in places such as Romans 1.
"…for their women exchanged the natural function for that which is unnatural, and in the same way also the men abandoned the natural function of the woman and burned in their desire toward one another, men with men committing indecent acts and receiving in their own persons the due penalty of their error" (Rom 1:26b-27).
God's ideal from Genesis 1-3 is one man and one woman joined to become one flesh. God created woman to be with the man, not a man to be with the man.
I don't need to belabor this point since you already understand what scripture says about this. I don't know how old your son is. I also don't know what social influences there are in his life that may have contributed toward his confusion concerning his sexuality. What you and he both need to understand is that God's plan for human sexuality is to be expressed only in the context of a legitimate marriage of a man and a woman. Anything other than this is a perversion. This includes premarital sex, homosexual practice, beastiality, and a number of other behaviors that the Bible clearly condemns.
This is not to say that a person will "desire" something wrong. In fact, the Bible doesn't necessarily condemn orientation. For instance, a man may desire women, but if he does not lust after them and does not commit adultery, he has not sinned in any way.
The same is true for someone with a homosexual orientation. He is not condemned for the orientation as long as he realizes that homosexual activity is wrong and that God clearly condemns it. God hates homosexuality, adultery, etc. However, he loves the homosexual. He calls the homosexual, adulterer, etc. to live right and not to engage or support this activity.
If your son Shawn is young, he is probably confused. The best thing to do is to see if there are influences in his life that encourage him to explore bisexuality and remove him from those influences. Our society is saturated with sex, especially aberrant and perverted sex. Try and talk to him about it. Demonstrate the love of God to him. Also demonstrate God's desire for purity in his life.
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