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Sender's name: Anonymous

This might be one of the dumber questions you have recieved on a subject that's not really discussed in churchs today, but I really want to know.  The Bible talks about the marriage bed being undefiled and I've been taught that what you do in your bedroom with your spouse is between you and God.  However, I've just found out what "sodomy" means.  Does that mean that as husband and wife we are not supposed to have oral or anal sex?  What if a husband wants that oral sex from the wife - according to God is that something that we are to refuse?

I appreciate in advance your direction in this matter. 




The Bible merely says that we are not to commit adultery (Luke 18:20), fornication (1 Cor 6:9), bestiality (Lev 20:15), or incest (Lev 20:11f).  Sex is to be between a husband and a wife (Heb 13:4).  The Bible gives no instructions on how to have sex, just that it is to be your spouse.  The closest thing we have concerning this comes from this passage:


"But because of immoralities, each man is to have his own wife, and each woman is to have her own husband.  The husband must fulfill his duty to his wife, and likewise also the wife to her husband.  The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband {does;} and likewise also the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Stop depriving one another, except by agreement for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer, and come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.  But this I say by way of concession, not of command (1 Cor 7:2-6)."



John Telgren

P.O. Box 452

Leavenworth, KS 66048


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